Dear Daughter: Perfection Isn’t the Goal

Dear Daughter, Perfection Isn't the Goal

Today, I share a daughter letter in Lauren Flake’s “Dear Daughter ” Letter series.

Dear Daughter,

You are a good child. Your heart wants to do the right thing simply because it is the right thing. When presented with two choices, you often think about the rules and the consequences and choose accordingly. You take pride in the straight line you walk, and I do, too. Mamas need a kid they can count on to make good choices.

I am a rule-follower like you. I like to know the boundaries so I can remain decidedly within them. Give me a line, and I will make sure we all hang out behind it. Our kind stays out of trouble. We make the people in charge happy.

The danger in all of this goodness within us is the tendency to rely on it for our righteousness. We work hard to be perfect in an effort to make God and all those around us happy. If our holiness depends on our ability to achieve perfection, why would we need Jesus?

I want you to know, I am so glad you desire perfection. But don’t depend on your ability to achieve holiness. This is the work Jesus accomplished on the cross. “We are made right with God by placing our faith in Jesus Christ” (Rom 3:22 NLT). No amount of goodness on your part will qualify you for heaven. The only way to the heart of God is through his Son.

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  1. Amen and amen! I too am a rule follower. I have to constantly remind myself that it’s in God that I find my righteousness and if I fail it will be alright. You are a wise mother to share that with your daughter.

  2. It was such a great message, Kelly,thank you! I too have a testimony about being a perfectionist and learning I can come as I am to the Lord. I was your neighbor today over at Crystal’s place. Have a blessed day!

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