Know Your Worth

letters to me

I would like to introduce you to my friend, Brianna. We met around a table in Austin. In our very first conversation, Brianna opened up easily with passion and tears. She is serious about sharing the justice, love, and mercy found in the Gospel. Her heart is so big it leaks out of her eyes. I love that about her. Thank you for sharing your big heart with us, Brianna! 


Mature. Develop. Adjust. Evolve.  It’s a lifetime of this that has made me who I am today. One point seems to be stunted and not changed as rapidly: my issue of people-pleasing. When I began to earnestly remove this destructive behavior from my life, I realized it was a deep seeded issue that began when I was very, very young. So, my letter begins at the beginning and evolves, much like I have in the last 35 years.

 

November 20, 1980

Dearest Little One,

It’s your birthday. Born to bring joy. Born to love. But first you must know how much you are cherished. You’ve done nothing yet to earn it. Let it be so with your whole life.

-Brianna, age 35

 

November 20, 1990

Dear Brianna,

It’s your 10th birthday. You are smart. You are talented. You are enough. You don’t need to pander for approval. Being you is enough. You desire love, affection, affirmation, admiration. You have it, but you don’t realize it, and it will never abandon you. Your behavior does not affect the love you receive. You don’t have to try so hard to be noticed, to receive the approval you seek, to establish yourself. You are loved. It’s time to believe.

-Brianna, age 35

 

November 20, 1996

Brianna,

Sixteen. Memories from this birthday will remain with you forever. It doesn’t have to. It isn’t significant, except your memory being distorted by compromise and pain. Despite the actions of those who demand behavior for you to receive worth and adulation, know there is nothing you can do to change them and their actions. You can only be who you are. They don’t understand you. They want to, but they have no idea of the depth of compassion you will acquire or the plans ahead in your life. In the name of protection and love, you have met anger and disappointment. It is ok; you are sensitive. You were created that way for a purpose. Do not be ashamed of how you were made. You don’t realize it yet, but you were created for an audience of One. He created you sensitive for His purposes. Happy birthday, even if no one else says it.

– Brianna, age 35

 

know your worth

November 20, 2001

Dear Bri,

Are you tired yet? Tired of pleasing? Tired of acting? Tired of giving away parts of yourself that were created for you to keep? Are you ready to stop these rebellious behaviors? Are you ready to believe in love again? Real love. Unapologetic love. Unrequited love. Consuming love. A graceful, unrelenting, undeserved love. It’s waiting for you. Stop your destructive behaviors to get what you can’t receive in this place you have put yourself. Stop trying so hard for acceptance. Stop the lying and pandering for approval. Don’t be afraid of this illusion of rejection.  You are never scorned. You are never forsaken. Accept the love that is being freely given. Grasp it. Take it. It is there. Open your eyes.

-Brianna, age 35

 

 

November 29, 2003 (Wedding day)

Brianna-

Today you will have bittersweet memories. You will receive love like never before. You will experience rejection based on your desires for your life , but now you have a partner. This is the crossing over. The beginning. Your journey begins now on a new path. Much will be done with and through it. You misunderstood the love offered to you. You are still trying to attain what has already been given you. You added to your already long list of people to please, yet still hold captive an audience of One. Someday you will realize this. Soon you will go through a change that will render your current thought process of love useless. You will begin to see who you are. You will begin to see the significance of your error in trying to receive love on your own. You will begin to experience freedom. Your husband will too, but neither of you will understand it quite yet. Keep pushing through. Lean into it. A breakthrough will happen. It will be hard, painful and necessary. The one you cleaved to and tried so desperately to please will be left behind in the severing of relationship, a new relationship begun. Happy wedding day.

-Brianna, age 35

 

know your worth

November 20, 2010

Dearest,

30 is your year. Your eyes have been opened from your first receiving of Grace 9 years ago. The person of Grace, Jesus, is revealing himself to you more fully this year. You will learn of His graces beyond salvation, His rest, His love for you. You will embrace your identity in Christ. You will finally begin to see who you really are to please. You will see your audience of One. The road begins to get more difficult–Satan sees it all, too. He doesn’t like it. He is afraid of it. He will tempt you to people-please more than ever before. But now you know the truth. Now you know your worth. You have a message that won’t be accepted by many and you will experience less approval than ever before. You will experience more rejection in the next 5 years than you have in your entire life. But you will grow stronger in Christ’s love. You will grow even less enamored in the ways of the world. You will find yourself constantly stepping on toes.  You will find yourself in a place of influence and with that will come heavy criticism. It will hurt. It will be difficult. You will want to people-please, but you won’t be able to; that will be the biggest blessing of your life. Fear is a liar. Do not be afraid of what is coming. Live well. Please your audience of One.

-Brianna, age 35

 

October 1, 2015

Beloved,

You are enough.

-Papa God


 

Guest post, Brianna George

 

Brianna is a Speaker, Teacher, and Missionary as well as a part-time Writer and full-time Encourager. She currently lives in Middle Tennessee with her husband of 12 years, Jason, busy being Mom to two spicy little boys and Bosa the Boxer. More of her writing can be found at her blog, Unveiled and Revealed.

 

 


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28 Comments

  1. Kelly, Thanks so much for having me and sharing my words with your people. 🙂 I pray they make a difference in someone’s life.

  2. Wow very moving! Soul stirring! Thanks for sharing your heart in this post! LOVE it!

  3. This is beautiful, Brianna. I grew up with the exact same thought pattern and it has been such a hard lie to break. I love your inspiring (inspired) letters.

    • Thank you.There are so many people whom I have talked to and counseled who also have these people pleasing issues. Thanks for reading. 🙂

  4. Good letters. I love when bloggers can be raw and real. <3

    • Ha! Thanks so much! Raw and real is my specialty. Hope to have you over at Unveiledandrevealed.com. 🙂

  5. how powerful! What a creative idea for a post too!! So thankful that our FULL worth is in HIM!

    Yay for Austin 😉

    • Thanks so much! It was one of those weird moments of brilliance apparently. 🙂 Austin is so wonderful. I want to go back! 🙂

  6. So sweet – it’s important to know our worth In Him! It is a walk though that’s for sure… I’m still learning! Thanks for this word!

  7. Wow! So encouraging and different. What a unique take on a blog post.

  8. I am so glad that you shared your journey with us. It is good to remember that others have struggles similar to our own. Thanks for sharing!

  9. I love this line, You were created that way for a purpose. Do not be ashamed of how you were made. You don’t realize it yet, but you were created for an audience of One. He created you sensitive for His purposes. Very comforting!

  10. I’m a people-pleaser too. I love your constant reminder to yourself, through out all the years, that there is only an audience of One that really and truly matters. No amount of good works and people-pleasing will make that One love me any more or any less. That love is more than I can ever know.
    Thank you!

    • Thank you. I only wish I would have heard and listened to these gems at these ages. 🙂 He truly is our audience. Our ONLY audience.

  11. This was so beautiful I don’t even have words…I wish I could have said the exact same things to myself so many times in my life. Thank you for writing. Your words truly touched me.

  12. This is absolutely gorgeous and everyone needs to read this. I wish that I could go back and give myself half the confidence I have now, which still isn’t much. I think I would be further along in my journey if I did. Thank you! Everyone needs to know that they are important and have worth!

  13. So beautifully written and very, very moving. I have tears in my eyes. Thanks for being so open and vulnerable and sharing with others.

    • Ah yes the tears. After I wrote this I was OK. After I read it out loud to my husband I sobbed. Ha. Amazing how words can affect us so…I am so glad you felt something from these words. 🙂

  14. beautiful – just beautiful

  15. i think that’s something that i’ve been fighting with all my life – nice to know i’m not alone in this

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