November is National Adoption Month. While I am not an adoptive parent, I wholeheartedly support the cause. I want to take some time to honor adoptive parents, shed some light on the adoption process, and share ways you can help. I called on some of my dear friends to help.
How Adoption Destroyed My Life
Maybe ruination is where we are supposed to live. Maybe this adoption thing is hard work, ugly tears, broken hearts, and sleepless nights. Maybe it is a daily struggle and the rewards are small and few. Perhaps the cost outweighs the gain… Maybe I’ve brought home this brokenness and pain and gave it a seat at my dining room table to look at each day as a constant reminder of the ruination. Maybe I need God every moment of the day because I’m tired and sometimes it’s just damn hard. And maybe there are days that I mourn my life before I chose wreckage. Days before I knew the truth, and blindly skipped across this life without delving too deeply into suffering, injustice and pain. Now I wade through the muck and the grit and I see. I was once blind, but dear God, now I see. (Stacey Gagnon, Ransom for Israel)
When Open Arms Ache and Loving Hearts Bleed
Adoption. It’s going to be amazing! Right? And it is amazing; at least, that’s what the adoptive parents I’ve talked with tell me. They also tell me it’s far more difficult, more heartbreaking than they could have ever dreamed. These parents, from different walks of life, confess it’s stretched them beyond anything they ever dreamed possible and they often feel unseen, unsupported, forgotten. Today, I tell their stories in hopes of changing some of that. (Read more of Stacey Philpot’s article on Her View From Home)
In the Raw
The truth is, I didn’t sign up for the perfect life I wanted.
I thought I did when I went off to college, got married,
and had my little goal sheet I checked off each year.
But really I signed up for following Christ – to the ends of the earth.
It’s painful, dirty, messy, ugly, full of heartache, tough,
excruciating, defeating, utterly exhausting,
and leaves me feeling raw.
But it is only in the raw
that Christ can do what He wants with my life,
if I let Him.
(Shellie Carson, The Carson Family Journey)
Meet an Amazing Adoption Advocate
We Can Do Something
I don’t believe that everyone is called to adopt. Hold on, let me explain… As much as I’ve wanted to I’ve never felt called, and believe me, I have listened intently for the call. The scriptures don’t tell us we have to adopt an orphan but they do say to care for the orphan. We are all called to do something. We can support, we can help, we can fund, we can pray for those families who are called, we can defend, we can do something. (Andrea Stunz, Empty Plate Full Heart)'We are all called to do something.' @AndreaStunz #nationaladoptionmonthClick To Tweet
Contribute to the care and adoption of orphans through these amazing organizations.
Show Hope™ is a movement to care for orphans, restoring the hope of a family to orphans in distress around the world. Founded by Steven Curtis Chapman and his wife Mary Beth, this nonprofit organization is helping to make a difference for the millions of orphans and waiting children around the world. Primarily they do this through Adoption Aid financial grants that help give orphans families and Special Care Centers in China that help orphans with special needs.
The ONE17 Foundation helps fund adoption stories that influence others to act on behalf of the orphan and create a ripple effect of care.
To all adoptive families, those in the waiting, and those who support through funding, prayers, and acts of service, happy National Adoption Month!
Do you have an adoption post you’d like to share? Drop a link in the comments below. I look forward to hearing your stories!
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