In my neck of the woods, the earth is shifting into the slower, more colorful season of fall. While the trees are packing up their photosynthesis for the winter and the birds are soaring in V-formation toward a warmer sun, I am entering a new level of chaos. This whir of activity has my goal-oriented head pounding and my heart searching for peace with our new normal.
Just a few short months ago, I was a stay at home mom, working a few Saturdays a month. I had time to clean my house every week. The laundry stayed folded and the pantry stayed stocked. I spent early morning hours and nap times drinking coffee and writing.
Now, I find myself with a temporary (I think) part-time job, 3 baskets of laundry piled in my room, and nothing to cook for dinner tonight. My blog planner said I should have posted something yesterday. My to do list says I should have a tidy house by now.
I am not cutting it.
You know what? It’s okay. Just as the seasons bring different goals for nature, the changing seasons in my own life require I reassess goals.
Spring brings a flurry of fertilization.
Summer produces bountifully.
Fall slows things down with beauty.
Winter is a time for all of creation to rest.
This is a new season for my family and I. I really hate to eliminate goals set in January but, I am not in the same place now. I am letting go of the drive to do so many things so I can thrive in the things I keep on the list.
1. Memorize 2 new verses; review previous verses. (Ephesians 6:12, Song of Songs 2:15. It would be dishonest to say these verses are “memorized.” I have them in my heart, but not fully in my mind.)
2. Sleep 7 hours a night; turn screens off by 8 pm. (I did have more nights of 7 hours in September than any other previous month. I am getting there!)
3. Exercise 3 x week. (I submit doctor’s excuses for me and my sick kids on this one. It’s been pitiful, really.)
Read 2 books. (I got on a Francine Rivers kick. I tried to read The Last Sin Eater to my girls, but it was a bit over their heads. Sarah Kate kept falling asleep. I fell in love with this book all over again. It stays on my list of re-reads!)
1. Weekly movie night;
monthly date night. (I appreciate my church standing in the gap for marriages; they provided childcare for a married people date night. Way to go, FCF!)
2. 1:1 time with each daughter. (I didn’t take them on a “date,” but I was intentional with the small moments we had throughout the month.)
Read aloud 1 book with the girls. (We read Sarah’s New World. I think we will move on through the Sisters in Time series. All three of us enjoyed this one.)
1. Keep the house picked up and mostly clean. (I look around at the laundry, the peanut butter smeared on the chair, a random pair of tights in the kitchen floor. I am going to say this one didn’t happen.)
2. Pick a few Declutter 365 tasks to do. (I am officially jumping off this wagon. I love the concept, but I cannot deal. Not right now.)
I am keeping a few, tossing a few in an effort to keep it simple. While time with my family isn’t listed, it is a daily priority. I am stilling holding tightly to the idea of being present.
1. Exercise 3 x week.
2. Read 2 books.
1. Monthly date night.
2. Read aloud 1 book with the girls.
Do what you can, sister. No judgment here!
1. Post to the blog 2x a week. (This one pains me. I have been a 3+ a week girl since we began. With the additional work days and contribution pieces, I need to adjust. I look forward to a season when my coffee and I can write for hours each day!)
Are you gracious with yourself when you move into a new season? Do you struggle with internal or external expectations like I did? Reassess goals and enjoy the changing of the seasons!
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