hospitality

The Progression from Play Date to Besties

In the normal rhythms of my day, I meet many women. I have at least one thing in common with most of them. If we meet at work, we share a professional background. Meeting at church means we have faith in common. Playground friendships grow from the mutuality of motherhood. In all the meeting and greeting, how does one go from acquaintance to best friend? I recently experienced this transition [Read more...]

The Positive Impact of Table Mentoring

Table mentoring: to advise and counsel another in an intimate setting, such as around a table; discipleship over brownies. My first experience with table mentoring began around a 1970’s style dining room table. A couple invited my husband and me over for dinner. One night of chicken casserole turned into years of shared dinners, chicken nugget lunches with the kids, and late night talks [Read more...]

True Confessions of a Bad Friend (A Never Unfriended Book Review)

I have a history of difficult friendships. In my early years, I would go so far as characterizing myself as a bad friend. A sampling of my friendship highlight reel: When a small group of friends failed to do things my way at a birthday party, I hid in the closet until they all left. It was my own birthday party. I called a really sweet girl an ugly name behind her back—and to her face. A [Read more...]

The Gift of Presence

“The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence.” Thich Nhat Hanh Not many things motivate me to reach into a toilet. Through a series of mishaps involving my potty training three-year-old, his blankie, and my phone, my most prized electronic device took the plunge. My floating phone was enough to make me reach in the germ infested water without so much as an, “Ew, [Read more...]

How to Be an Extraordinary Blessing in an Ordinary World

Do you ever wish a kind, gentle Christian woman would hold your hand and help you figure out how to be a blessing to others? Titus 2:4 lays out the model for such a relationship: “By looking at [older women], the younger women will know how to love their husbands and children, be virtuous and pure, keep a good house, be good wives (MSG).” In her latest book, Listen, Love, Repeat: [Read more...]

The Heart of Hospitality

“I long, as does every human being, to be at home wherever I find myself.”  ~Dr. Maya Angelou Chaperoning a middle school field trip is not everyone’s idea of a fun day, but I didn’t mind. I enjoyed spending time with my daughter and getting to know her friends. However, my comfort level dropped during lunch. Because we are fairly new, I didn’t know many parents on the [Read more...]

Six Women Who Need to Read Giddy Up, Eunice

In the years before my first child came along, my husband and I spent a lot of time with a couple five years ahead of us in life. Ross and Jeanna’s marriage served as an example to us newlyweds. We watched as they learned how to navigate the new world of parenting. I learned so much about mothering in those five years of shadowing my dear friend. I am sure it wasn’t easy on Jeanna to [Read more...]

The Importance of Discipleship

“You don’t have to start a new organization, or write a book, or start a new blog. Just make disciples.” ~David Platt We see so many “big” efforts for Christ, especially on sites like Facebook and Twitter. Fundraisers for charity organizations. Viral blog posts encouraging others. Campaigns to end human trafficking. Crusades bringing the lost to Jesus. And sometimes we allow them to [Read more...]

The Sacred Connection of Flavor to the Heart

I haven’t had a bite of my grandma’s coconut cake in over twenty-five years, but I can still taste it. It is remarkable how deeply connected our taste buds are to our hearts. Never does a bite of coconut cake pass my lips that I don’t think of her. I think Grandma’s coconut cake was the best on this side of heaven. As the knife sliced through the three-layer cake, the smell of vanilla and [Read more...]

Sharing Love = Sharing the Gospel

“Preach the gospel always, if necessary use words.”  ~St. Francis of Assisi I’m a therapist at a hospital. Recently, we had an irritable, uncooperative patient who was putting everyone on her floor on edge. She yelled at every staff member who came into her room. She not-so-politely asked me to leave and not return. At first, I thought of her as an inconvenience. When it was time for me to [Read more...]